Deb DeArmond is passionate about family matters, and she encourages healthy interactions in all kinds of relationships. But in this Spiritual Growth UPGRADE, she helps us deal with 
recurring struggles and trials.
"Returning struggles. Just when you think you've cleared the hurdle, they present again," Deb says. "They can sap your strength, shake your confidence, and cause you to question God. How to manage? Bounce, don't break!"
I (Dawn) just dealt with a recurring struggle in early January. "I thought I'd already dealt with that," I said. It made me feel weak as I reeled in confusion. But I attest to what Deb is saying. Resiliency as we trust in Christ enables us to move forward.
Deb continues . . .
I could see her out of the corner of my eye. She was watching me. Again.
She wasn’t a creepy stranger on the street, but a trusted colleague. Her intentions were good, but it was uncomfortable.
Carrie was one of a handful of co-workers who knew of my heart problem. She’d been with me—on the road two years earlier—when it began. I knew she was concerned; our work assignment this day brought heat and elevation into the equation. Both could create issues for me. And they did.
After my initial diagnosis, I had surgery that corrected the problem.
The doctor was sure it would not re-emerge. He was wrong. A year later, a second surgery and more assurances felt less certain for a permanent solution. I felt great for five months, and then it returned.
And now Carrie, and a handful of others, made it their personal mission to watch me like a hawk.
I never questioned their motives, but the fact they felt the need to monitor me made me feel old, frail, and weak. I am none of those things. But there are days, I work hard to convince myself of that truth.
Returning struggles.
Just when you think you've cleared the hurdle, they present again. And whether they're health problems, financial struggles or any recurring hardships—they can sap your strength, shake your confidence, and cause you to question God.
So, what's the key to keep moving forward with peace and confidence?
BOUNCE—don't break.
B — BELIEVE.
Our confidence is in God's faithfulness.
He loves His children and strengthens us for the situation, even when He doesn't remove it. I've discovered new levels of certainty that He's ever present.
O — OFFER
Offer thanksgiving and praise for the solution.
Faith is trust in God that doesn't demand He deliver on our timetable. Honor Him by trusting His Word.
U — UNDERSTAND
Understand you may not understand.
As toddlers, our favorite question was "Why?" As adults, we are just taller two-year-olds—with an overwhelming need for an answer.
Sometimes God provides us that insight; sometimes He does not. Be okay with not knowing.
N —NAVIGATE
Navigate your new normal.
- Curb spending on restaurant meals.
- Consider how best to invest your energy level each day.
- Accommodate changes that minimize the impact of the issue.
C — COMMUNICATE
Communicate with family and trusted friends about your circumstances, especially when it's health related.
The colleagues I travel with know what to do if I have an issue. They know how to access the information on my phone and are clear about the details that would be needed in an emergency.
E —EDUCATE
Educate yourself in the promises of God's Word and the issues you face.
- Financial problem? Take a class on financial stewardship.
- Health issue? Ask your physician for information and suggestions for books or articles that can help you learn about your options.
What does the Bible say about struggles?
“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing” James 1:2-4 (ESV).
Blessed are the FLEXIBLE, for they shall not break!
What can you do to bounce into action?
Deb DeArmond’s passion is family—not just her own, but the relationships within families in general. Her first book, Related by Chance, Family by Choice: Transforming the Mother-in-Law and Daughter-in-Law 
Relationships explores tools and tips to building sound relationships between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. Book #2, I Choose You Today, helps couples strengthen their marriages. Deb's new book on marital conflict, Don't Go to Bed Angry, Stay Up and Fight! was co-authored by her husband, Ron. They live in the Fort Worth area. For more about Deb, visit her "Family Matters" site.